A lasting relationship doesn't happen by chance. It requires a shared vision, common values, and the ability to grow together through the years. Couples who stay in love long-term are those who continue to ask questions, dream together, and adapt to life's changes.
These 40 questions are designed to help you reflect on your shared future, align your aspirations, and build the foundations of a solid relationship that will stand the test of time. They invite you to have those essential conversations that many couples avoid, but that make all the difference.
Why These Questions Matter
Too many couples move through life without ever discussing their deep expectations. The result: disappointments, misunderstandings, and sometimes separations that could have been avoided. Taking time to ask these questions is investing in the durability of your love.
Questions About Your Values and Life Priorities
Understanding what truly matters to each person is fundamental to building together.
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What are the three most important values in your life?
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How would you define a successful life for both of us?
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Are there beliefs or principles you would never compromise on?
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What truly makes you happy on a daily basis?
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How do you see the ideal balance between work and personal life?
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What role should family (parents, siblings) play in our life as a couple?
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What traditions would you like us to create together?
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How do you perceive the importance of money in our happiness?
Questions About Your Vision of the Future
Dreaming together means building a future that reflects both of you.
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Where do you see yourself in 5 years? And in 10 years?
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What's your biggest dream for our life together?
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Do you have personal goals you'd like me to support more?
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How do you imagine our daily life when we're older?
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Are there adventures or experiences you'd like us to live together?
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Where would you ideally like us to live?
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How do you see our social life in the coming years?
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What legacy would you like us to leave behind?
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Are there fears about the future you've never talked about?
Questions About Family and Children
These delicate questions deserve to be approached with openness and honesty.
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How do you see our role as parents (or our decision not to have children)?
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What values would you like to pass on to our children (or to younger generations)?
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How do you imagine the division of family responsibilities?
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What kind of relationship would you like us to have with our respective parents as they age?
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Are there elements of your upbringing you'd like to reproduce or avoid?
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How would you react if we faced difficulties having children?
Questions About Managing Challenges and Conflicts
Challenges are inevitable. What matters is how you get through them together.
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How can we better manage our disagreements on important topics?
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What's your biggest fear about our ability to overcome difficulties?
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How do you feel supported when you're going through a hard time?
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Are there past conflicts between us that aren't truly resolved?
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How would you react if one of us went through a major crisis (health, work, depression)?
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What could put our relationship at risk in your opinion?
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How can we make sure we're always on the same team, even during arguments?
Questions About Personal and Couple Growth
Growing together while evolving individually is the perfect balance.
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How can we encourage each other to become better people?
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Are there aspects of yourself you'd like to develop with my support?
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How do you handle the fact that we may change over the years?
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What makes you fear we might drift apart?
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How can we keep our relationship fresh and exciting in the long term?
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What past mistakes have made us stronger today?
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How do we celebrate our successes together?
Questions to Strengthen Your Commitment
These final questions will help you reaffirm your mutual commitment and build on solid foundations.
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What makes you believe in us for the long term?
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How can I show you every day that you're my priority?
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If you could make one promise for our future together, what would it be?
Building Day by Day
A lasting relationship isn't declared, it's built. Every deep conversation, every moment of connection, every challenge overcome together adds a stone to the edifice of your love. Love that lasts isn't the one that knows no trials, but the one that chooses to face them hand in hand.
Explore Other Dimensions of Your Relationship
To build a solid relationship, it's essential to work on all aspects of your life together. Discover our other guides:
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💬 40 Questions to Communicate Better — Communication is the cement of any lasting relationship. Learn to truly talk to each other and avoid misunderstandings.
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💕 40 Questions on Emotional Intimacy — Create a deep connection by exploring your emotions, vulnerabilities, and mutual desires.
Discover the Love2Love App
Building a lasting relationship requires daily commitment. The Love2Love app supports you with new questions every day, adapted to your life stage and your couple's needs. Over 500 questions to communicate, rediscover each other, and strengthen your bond. It's free, so why wait?
